Self Care
Caring for Your Self Matters, Whether You’re in a Relationship or Not!
Whether you’re single or partnered up, self-care is something you can incorporate into your daily life to become happier and healthier.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s natural to think about your partner. You focus on what they like, want, and need. But remember, relationships are a two-way street. Attending to your own needs first makes you more present and a better partner.
Self-care is any activity that we do to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it’s a simple concept, it’s something we often overlook. Good self-care is key to improving your mood and reducing anxiety. It’s also a central piece of having a good relationship with yourself and others.

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Meaningful self-care starts with getting quiet and asking yourself what you really need. The answer doesn’t have to be big and life-changing. Sometimes what you need right now is a snack or a nap, which is just as important to recognize!
Self-care can be about attending to physical needs, like sleep, food, or exercise.
It can be about caring for your psychological needs through meditation, journaling, or speaking with a trained counselor or social worker.
It can also be about doing something that makes you feel good. This might be snuggling with your dog or cat. Or maybe it’s singing along to your favorite album in your bedroom. Or it could be FaceTiming your best friend to talk about the latest episode of your favorite show. Choose activities that will bring you joy and comfort.
Self-care can help you feel healthier, happier, and more grounded. If you’re in a relationship, taking care of yourself first allows you to be a more connected, caring partner. If you’re single, self-care is a great way to learn more about yourself and your needs — and maybe that helps prepare you for a successful relationship, if and when you want one.
Self-care is also critical for survivors of domestic abuse. This guide is designed to help survivors get started with self-care.
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